What would make you happy. Is it be being a positive person or a negative person

What would make you happy? A new wardrobe, a faster car, money in your bank account, a beautiful girlfriend, a handsome and famous boyfriend, a good job a big house, a name brand, to be call a celebrity when you're not, a husband, a wife, moving to a different city? People often think these things are the key to feeling good, but experts say only about 10% of a person's happiness is related to them.

Much more happiness -- 90% -- has to do with your general outlook on life. You can learn a lot about your own worldview by paying attention to "self-talk" -- the conversation you have in your head about yourself and the world around you. Even more important, changing how you talk to yourself can actually help shift your perspective, too.

The positive and negative events in our lives is due to what we wished for. Pessimists views around negative things and explain away anything good that happens to them. Optimists tend to distance themselves from negative events and embrace the positive.

Say you stumble and spill your drink at a party. Was it because you were distracted or are you a total klutz? An optimist is more likely to tell himself it's temporary and fixable. A pessimist is more likely to say it's a reflection of his permanent state.

Make Self-Talk Work for You

Self-talk can affect your perspective. It can boost you up or take you down. Athletes use positive self-talk to reach their personal bests. Some people use negative self-talk to justify the ruts they find themselves in. Here are some examples of negative self-talk and ways to make conversations with yourself more positive.

When Something Good Happens

You aced the test. Is it because you are a good student who will go far in life, or did you just get lucky? When good things happen, internalize success with some self-kudos.

Negative self-talk can be rife in social situations, especially if you feel nervous or "on display." Positive self-talk can help you put social gaffes in proper perspective.
I always stuff my face."I have trouble controlling myself around beautiful women."I have no focus." "I find it more difficult to focus when I'm tired." Adopting a more positive language and worldview can pay off, however. People who focus on the present and appreciate what they have today are more happy, energetic, and hopeful. Happiness opens your mind to new possibilities, creative thinking, and interest in social situations. Happier thoughts could give you fewer things to feel bad about. So people focus on the positive side of people's lives, even if you find anything negative about them. There is always a way to pass out a message without hurting others